Russell on affection
The best type of affection is reciprocally life-giving;each receives affection with joy and gives it without effort,and each finds the whole world more interesting in consequence of the existence of this reciprocal happiness.There is ,howenver,anther kind,bz no means unvommon,in which one person sucks the vitalitz of the other,one receives what the other gives,but gives almost nothing in return.Some very vital people belong to this bloodsucking typel They extract the vitality from one victim after another,but while they prosper and grow interesting,those upon whom they live grow pale and dim and dull.Such people use others as means to their own ends,and never consider them as ends in themselves.Fundamentally they are not interested in those whom for the moment they think they love;they are interested only in them stimulus to their own activities,perhaps of a quite impersonal sort.Evidently t his springs from some defect in their nature,but it si one ont altogether easy either to diagnose or to cure.It is a charracteristic frequently associated with great ambition,and is makes human happiness.Affection in the sense of a genuine reciprocal interest of two persons in each other,not solely as means to each otehrs good,but rather as a combinationhaving a common good ,is one of the most important elements of real happiness,and the man whose ego is so enclosed within steel walls that this enlargement of it is impossible misses the best that life has to offer, however successful he may be in this careeer.A too powerful ego is a world to the full.A capacity for genuine affection is one of the markds of the man who has escaped from this prison of self.To receive affection is by no means enough;affection which is received should liberate the affection which is to be given,and only where both exist in equal measure does affection achieve its best possibilities.----From Russell's Views On Life 我喜欢这个故事 好象刚有人贴过吧 以前也看过这个帖子，不过的确很不错！
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